What Will My Children Remember?

I often think about the memories that my kids will have of me.  I have really great memories of my childhood and I want them to, as well.  There was a lot of singing and dancing in my house when I was growing up.  My parents (especially my mom) were silly.  My mom once asked me … Continue reading What Will My Children Remember?

I am the mom of my children.

The other day, a well-meaning, curious person asked me if Lizzie's mom is in the picture at all.  And, I felt like she had slapped me in the face.  I explained that all parental rights had been terminated, so no.  She was relieved to hear it.  She walked away and I sat with unpleasant memories … Continue reading I am the mom of my children.

How not to style a black child’s hair.

Before the boys, we talked about the possibility of adopting black children.  We knew we didn’t care, on a personal level.  But, we worried about how society would react and, if it was a girl, we worried about how we would do the hair.  When the call came about the boys, we instantly knew that, no … Continue reading How not to style a black child’s hair.