Category: Adoption

When The Birth Mother Dies

My children's biological mother is dead. I only know because one day, I decided to be nosy and check jail records to see if she'd been up to anything. She hadn't. Because it turns out that after years of being worried that I would run into her with the kids, she was gone. She had … Continue reading When The Birth Mother Dies

I Have A New Puppy

I have a puppy! Omg, I have a puppy! All of these years of rescuing/acquiring dogs and I have never had a puppy. The plan wasn't a puppy but for years, I have been dealing with the stress of bringing dogs in (as rescues and for petsitting) and worrying about the safety of our cats. … Continue reading I Have A New Puppy

Unexpected Truths From A Teenager

They say that horseback riding is beneficial on many levels. And, man, were they right! There is the obvious stuff like strength building, weight loss, and confidence building. But, what I didn't expect was the emotional benefit. I have mentioned this in a previous post before but this is a new story, promise! I had … Continue reading Unexpected Truths From A Teenager

I’m Not The Biological Mom And That’s Ok

I used to get so upset when people would prefer to my foster care adopted kids' biological mother as their mom; as evidenced by the many adoption blog and facebook posts, over the years. But, as time moved on, it has bothered me less and less. This is probably partly because it happens less since … Continue reading I’m Not The Biological Mom And That’s Ok

I Forget About My Son’s ADHD

My son has ADHD and sometimes that just seems like a catch-all diagnosis. Through the years, there have been those who didn't completely think that ADHD was a "thing" and there have been those who thought it was as simple as taking away sugar. And there have been those who didn't think I should have … Continue reading I Forget About My Son’s ADHD

Teenagers And Texts

My teenage son and I have had a difficult time. It's hard to navigate the teen years and the challenges of post-adoption life. There were times that I wanted to give up on our relationship, but, I knew I couldn't. But now our relationship is shockingly good. He has gone from a boy who didn't … Continue reading Teenagers And Texts

My Kids Are Miraculously Mine.

I saw this picture at the thrift store and I hesitated because, as I have mentioned before, I have read many posts about the "wrongness" of celebrating adoption. I have read about how it can be a tragedy for the biological connections. How adoption means loss because you're not where you were "supposed" to be. … Continue reading My Kids Are Miraculously Mine.

Adoption Defines Us… Sort Of

Sometimes people focus on the fact that our kids are adopted. Why wouldn't they? It's a big part of who we are. Yes, in some ways, it defines us. But, in a lot of ways, it is just part of us. Like, our kids are adopted and also, we like to eat hamburgers! So, we were … Continue reading Adoption Defines Us… Sort Of

Brian Is Their Father

I was scrolling through facebook which is definitely one of my favorite hobbies and I saw this meme. Well, I was about to make a silly comment about how I had no choice because he lives in the house and then it hit me. Brian is their father. My mind never went to anything but that. … Continue reading Brian Is Their Father

Everyone Doesn’t Know Who We Are

    The whole time that I have been mom to my kiddos, we lived in an area that was not particularly diverse. I guess that's the reason that everyone knew who we were.  Transracial families were also more unusual than they are now. Not that they are particularly common now but it is definitely … Continue reading Everyone Doesn’t Know Who We Are