Adopting black children changes your perspective. I find myself drawn to other black people now. I also find myself saying things like "other black people" because I now think I am one. : ) I worry about race in a way that I didn't before. I knew racism existed and I knew that I wasn't a racist. But, … Continue reading Overcoming Racial Challenges in Adoption: A Personal Story
Category: Adoption
Common Misconceptions About Adoptive Families
Perception is an interesting thing. I live my days with three children that are so much mine, in my heart, that I practically have memories giving birth to them. I know I didn't, though. No need to be concerned for my grasp on reality. But the point is that I don't dwell on the fact … Continue reading Common Misconceptions About Adoptive Families
Adopting foster children and their issues.
He was born 3.5 pounds, 6 weeks premature, at home. He had crack in his system. The biological mother was allowed to go home with him because she was cooperative and, therefore, it was labeled "low risk." Foster Care Two years later, he was put into foster care, with his three siblings, when it was … Continue reading Adopting foster children and their issues.
Challenges and Joys of Adoption Finalization
Three years ago, today, on May 9, 2008, our adoption of William and Antwan was finalized. They came to live with us on February 15th, but, on this day, it was made official and legal! It was a special, monumental day. And, at the same time, it was like any other day when you have … Continue reading Challenges and Joys of Adoption Finalization
Navigating Adoption: The Impact of Labels on Identity
A few weeks ago, at the doctor's office, we were discussing the fact that William hadn't gained any weight. She commented that maybe the "real" mom was thin. I was so focused on answering the question and taking the super-mature opportunity to say that she was actually over-weight, that it didn't register right away. I Am … Continue reading Navigating Adoption: The Impact of Labels on Identity
Adopting Our Sons from Foster Care
The other day was our 3-year anniversary of the boys being placed in our home. It was the day that my life changed forever. My life changed when we were told that we had been chosen for the boys, then again when we met them for the first time, and then again, when we brought … Continue reading Adopting Our Sons from Foster Care