Common Misconceptions About Adoptive Families

Perception is an interesting thing.  I live my days with three children that are so much mine, in my heart, that I practically have memories giving birth to them.  I know I didn't, though.  No need to be concerned for my grasp on reality. But the point is that I don't dwell on the fact … Continue reading Common Misconceptions About Adoptive Families

Adopting foster children and their issues.

He was born 3.5 pounds, 6 weeks premature, at home.  He had crack in his system.  The biological mother was allowed to go home with him because she was cooperative and, therefore, it was labeled "low risk." Foster Care Two years later, he was put into foster care, with his three siblings, when it was … Continue reading Adopting foster children and their issues.

Challenges and Joys of Adoption Finalization

Three years ago, today, on May 9, 2008, our adoption of William and Antwan was finalized.  They came to live with us on February 15th, but, on this day, it was made official and legal! It was a special, monumental day.  And, at the same time, it was like any other day when you have … Continue reading Challenges and Joys of Adoption Finalization

Teaching Moments: What My Kids Have Taught Me

Like many parents, I thought I was pretty smart when I became a mom.  But everyday, my three children teach me even more.  Either I wasn't that smart at the beginning or I'm really, really smart now.  These are my life lessons from my 8-year-old, William. 1. A high five is appropriate in almost any situation. … Continue reading Teaching Moments: What My Kids Have Taught Me

Why We Rescued a Bullied Beta Fish

The other day, I was in the store with the babies and we stopped to look at the fish.  I was looking at the Betas and I noticed that in one container, there were 2 of them.  The first rule of Betas is that you can't put them together or they will kill each other.  One of … Continue reading Why We Rescued a Bullied Beta Fish

Navigating Adoption: The Impact of Labels on Identity

A few weeks ago, at the doctor's office, we were discussing the fact that William hadn't gained any weight.  She commented that maybe the "real" mom was thin.  I was so focused on answering the question and taking the super-mature opportunity to say that she was actually over-weight, that it didn't register right away. I Am … Continue reading Navigating Adoption: The Impact of Labels on Identity

My son thinks I’m a dinosaur.

Before bedtime, William was reading through his favorite dinosaur book.  He loves dinosaurs.  Pointing at one, "Mom, do you think this looks like what you look like when you get mad?" Me- "Maybe a little." William - "You know, if you were a dinosaur." Me - "Sure." William - "I'm going to call it the … Continue reading My son thinks I’m a dinosaur.