One thing that I have learned is that when you adopt transracially is that it's going to be different. There are things that I have learned about what it might be like to be black and things that I've learned about being the mother of a black child. I've learned that even the most well-intentioned person … Continue reading Understanding Prejudice in Transracial Families
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I’m not that smart…
Brian and I have always loved going to thrift stores. Something about not knowing what you might find and the fact that if you find "it," then "it" probably won't cost you much, is very exciting. So, when we have a free afternoon, one of us tends to suggest stopping by one.And, the kids love thrift … Continue reading I’m not that smart…
Gotcha Day Celebration Gone Bad…sorta
Wednesday was the 4 year anniversary of the boys' placement with us. Four years ago, on that day, we picked the boys up from the agency. The very nice case worker unceremoniously handed us their bags and said goodbye. She was very happy about the match, it just wasn't her first time doing this. But, it was most definitely … Continue reading Gotcha Day Celebration Gone Bad…sorta
Lessons on Compassion from My Child
There is a man that lives in my area. People have many nicknames for him, but I don't know if anyone knows his real name. At first glance, he's a random homeless guy. This is sad enough. But when you add the fact that he actually has a house and lots of money due to an inheritance … Continue reading Lessons on Compassion from My Child
How much does the first year affect a child?
She was a good, sweet baby. As exhausted as I was, I was still aware of how low-maintenance she was. She didn't cry much, only when hungry or tired. But, she smiled, she smiled a lot. For the first year of her life, her future was unclear. She was being transported to visitations with her … Continue reading How much does the first year affect a child?
How important is biology?
Biological. Our life has proved that biology is not the most important thing. My children's biological mother didn't love these children like I do and despite the fact that they tend to have the dog's hair on them and William left this morning with pink (used to be white) socks hidden under his jeans, she … Continue reading How important is biology?
Is love colorblind?
"I made you black." William said, kind of sheepishly. We were sitting in the play area at the mall. Antwan and Lizzie were playing. I had ordered William to take a break from his new Nintendo 3ds, so he could get some exercise. But, instead, he had moved on to telling me about everything that he … Continue reading Is love colorblind?
I am happy to be his mom.
It is a known fact that if I sit down anywhere in my house, I won't be sitting there alone very long. Because there will soon be a little Parker ready to visit. The kids were happily playing so I sat down in my beloved recliner and opened my laptop. I was ready to sneak in … Continue reading I am happy to be his mom.
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