The other day, a well-meaning, curious person asked me if Lizzie's mom is in the picture at all. And, I felt like she had slapped me in the face. I explained that all parental rights had been terminated, so no. She was relieved to hear it. She walked away and I sat with unpleasant memories … Continue reading I am the mom of my children.
From non-relative placement to forever mom, looking back to 2 years ago (September 29, 2009)
On September 11, 2008, a case worker brought Lizzie to us and we fell in love. We were contacted because we had already adopted the boys. In the first conversation, we were asked if we would like to adopt her and advised that it would be an expedited process. We said yes, but then things … Continue reading From non-relative placement to forever mom, looking back to 2 years ago (September 29, 2009)
Raising My Self-Confident Child.
My Antwan. He's smart, compassionate, and a fast runner. Most things come easy to him. He's absolutely beautifiul. And, in many ways, he's become my biggest challenge. William is eager to please and is insecure. Therefore, he really tries to do what I ask of him. Antwan is eager to please, but not the tiniest bit insecure. … Continue reading Raising My Self-Confident Child.
Adoption Placement Memories (3 years ago, I met my daughter.)
September 11 is a date that will be remembered by Americans everywhere, always. It was a terrible day that shouldn't have happened. But, for us, September 11th (2008) also represents a new beginning because it was the day that we met Lizzie. I'm aware of the irony. On the date when so many lost so much, we gained … Continue reading Adoption Placement Memories (3 years ago, I met my daughter.)
Adopted children and their need to be accepted.
Driving home from the store, (It seems like we are always driving home from the store), William referenced the eternal "Can I ______, I'll be your best friend!" (When someone wants what you have or wants you to do something and offers to be your best friend...) Then he said, "But, they never keep their … Continue reading Adopted children and their need to be accepted.
Our Journey to Parenting: The DragonCon Experience
After years of going to Dragoncon, this one in 2008, was going to be very different. Because we were getting ready for our first DragonCon with kids. We were focused on getting the boys ready and figuring out how we were going to afford the trip at all, with two new sons. We couldn't even begin … Continue reading Our Journey to Parenting: The DragonCon Experience
Foster Care Memories After Adoption
Leaving the park today, William randomly says, " I'm lucky to have a family. I would have had a bad life if you and Daddy hadn't found us." It's random statements like this that stop me in my tracks, in one way, and then at the same time, I take them in stride because it's … Continue reading Foster Care Memories After Adoption
Overcoming Racial Challenges in Adoption: A Personal Story
Adopting black children changes your perspective. I find myself drawn to other black people now. I also find myself saying things like "other black people" because I now think I am one. : ) I worry about race in a way that I didn't before. I knew racism existed and I knew that I wasn't a racist. But, … Continue reading Overcoming Racial Challenges in Adoption: A Personal Story
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