I'm always looking for ways to connect the kids to their "blackness." All the studies and articles written by super smart people say it's super important. And people who grew up in a transracial family say how they felt like they didn't belong. (Although, I think in our immediate family, the fact that Brian and … Continue reading Bridging The Gap With Black Panther
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Stuck In The Anger Stage Of Grief
So my dad is dead and I'm in the anger stage of grief and those angry emotions are constantly boiling right under the surface of my emotional skin. A handful of weeks ago, I was preaching to the kids that it's important to remember not to let the little things get to us and remember what's … Continue reading Stuck In The Anger Stage Of Grief
#MomGuilt
#momguilt I knew since I was a kid that I wanted to be a mom. By young adulthood, I had gathered that it wasn't going to be easy. But, like most people who aren't actually parents yet, I had all the answers. I could see the mistakes that the moms around me made and I … Continue reading #MomGuilt
Our Kids’ Oldest Brother And Us.
When I stop and think about it, I am aware at how differently my life turned out from what I expected.. I always visualized marrying a man with brown hair who would make me laugh and feel safe. I would get pregnant immediately. We'd have 2 or 4 babies (I like equal numbers.)and a houseful of animals. We … Continue reading Our Kids’ Oldest Brother And Us.
Should My Children Be Grateful For Being Adopted?
Adoptive parents are sensitive folks. Really, every group is. There are some things that will get us all revved up. My "triggers" are asking about "real mom," asking if I have my own children, or really anything that suggests that I or my children are "less than," in any way. I've tried to lighten up over the … Continue reading Should My Children Be Grateful For Being Adopted?
Passing On My Memories To My Daughter
Motherhood. It's such a common thing and yet for some it is (or was) so hard to achieve. We take it on cavalierly like it's not a big deal and is all at the same time. We try to do our best as we take on the power to completely make or break someone. If you want to … Continue reading Passing On My Memories To My Daughter
Turns Out When You Homeschool, They’re Always At Home!
We home school. It still doesn't roll off my tongue. But, it sure does consume my thoughts.As soon as our decision was made, we started the process. I made the appropriate calls. I sent in the appropriate paperwork. I registered him on the appropriate virtual learning website. I turned in his books. Then, we waited. He had to … Continue reading Turns Out When You Homeschool, They’re Always At Home!
Your First Parents Didn’t Love You.
They say that adopted children carry a "primal wound" with them as they go through life. A scar from the initial rejection by the people who were "supposed" (to use the term loosely) love and protect them forever. In some ways, no matter how much water you pour in their emotional bucket, it will never completely … Continue reading Your First Parents Didn’t Love You.
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